“I mean, just because I broke up with him, doesn’t mean I have to break up with the sex… Does it?”
- a horny concern from a single woman
Sounds silly when you say it aloud, BUT you have to admit that it’s a great question. Granted its usually asked through the hot and hazy gaze of lust—but hey, sometimes it bees like that. Especially if you’re coming from the position a lot of busy and single women with healthy libidos find themselves in: waiting for an annoyingly long period of time for a worthy suitor to get “personal” with.
Under these agitating conditions, sex with the ex sounds like a sweet recovery plan on speed dial. Especially if he was “memorable”… A great package is something that you never forget (never, ever). And because of your past with that great package you know he comes fully equipped with pre-installed intimacy (which only validates the horny concern even more). Smh tricky, tricky stuff. It’s a double-edged sword your up against with the Ex-Sex Game ladies. Should you decide to venture please be sure to travel safely. Please reference this list of pros and cons as your North Star. Don’t worry, I gotchyou.
Good times revisited - Your alleviated of all that awkward fumbling that comes when new partners venture into uncharted territories. NOT the case with this guy- he knows how to get you where you need to be map-free, which is a GOD send in troubled times because as we all know, it’s so hard to find good help these days… tisk, tisk.
Your “number” remains locked – The partner count— the number we women watch like lotto. If you decide to go back and hump the ex, know that that count remains the same and you won’t have to etch another tally to that pile of sticks (and society can happily go back to eating its cookie).
Friendly reminder that you were a great catch and he effed-the-eff up… royally! - It’s really not cool to say, “I told you so.” So just go ahead show him.
You know he’s “Clean” – You already know if History’s hygiene habits were a yay or nay. If he was a former constant for you, I’m assuming he was a ‘yay.’ Going back to someone who keeps great maintenance is a good idea, because lucky for you, old habits die hard.
Keeps you in practice during the off-season – Any good coach will tell you, “Practice makes perfect!” There’s nothing that is going to keep you on (and off) your toes than an old partner that knows your competitive edge. Owww!
And for guys ex-sexing - No more time-consuming and lucrative 5-date investments, just go on and slide straight into home. Literally.
Good times right! :)
Wait…hol up, hol up, hol up…
Let’s not forget the…..
BEWARE of the “Good Old Times” Monster - He lurks in the shadows and attacks at your most vulnerable. If you are not shielded with closure, your subject to enduring some nasty, clingy feelings of attachment that may resurface and keep you in a place you already swore to progress past. I recommend sex with the lights on. Tell your brain to follow suit.
Indirectly, you become unavailable - Falling back into the treadmill of an old habit can lessen the likelihood of meeting Mr. BrandF*ckinNew… And he’s shiny.
You can potentially ruin the potential for a friendship with him – Becoming that intimate with somethone you had to walk away from in the past may complicate your current friendship with old problems.
And worst of all... – The slight but quite possible chance that it may be disappointing. And while being disappointed by a new lover is the pits- being disappointed by an experience you once romanticized, BLOWS. It’s on a whole other level of disappointment because it’s that disillusioning disappointing, that Santa’s-Not-Real Disappointment. The kind of disappointment that makes throwing an adult-hissyfit momentarily permissible. Real bad times. (Just thinking about it pisses me off). smdh.
So here we remain, with a bunch of goods and bads that outweigh each other! Where to go from here? You tell us! Is Ex-Sex a bad idea? Or a sweet escape? Preach! @wwmdtv
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