It’s a damn shame, but the damn truth: Nice guys are an endangered species. Why? Most of them shed their gleaming exterior to assume a tougher hide, one that’s teflon to female sincerity and decorated in M.O.B.-esque tattoos. This new guy is not the most notorious womanizer, but understands the most notorious womanizer’s doctrines and quite frankly, isn’t mad at them. It’s all elementary — like literally elementary school: Nice Boy expressed his unrequited love to seemingly Nice Girl, she stuck her tongue out at Nice Boy and his crummy little flower, skipped over to the time-out section of the playground and found a little ruffian to play “Guess What’s Under My Skirt?” with. Nice Boy has never been the same. Or something like that…Not exactly, but kinda, sorta, close to a lot of the experiences shared by men who express SMDH sentiments when they hear women mourning the death of chivalry.
Although I don’t doubt the testimonies of former Nice Guys, I can’t help but arch my eyebrow at their fleeting resilience. It’s not that girls like bad guys (necessarily), we just know that passive guys are not an option (in many ways our survival depends on it)! It’s something wired in women, even as young pig-tailers, we look for the guy whose strength is most transparent. It’s a lengthy, trial-and-error maturation process before women (some never) start to visibly recognize that physical and emotional endurance are of two different veins and begin to lust for the characteristics of silent strength. But unfortunately for chicks, by the time they reach illumination, former nice guy is off somewhere comfortably jaded spraying champagne and emotional distance on his new subject. Or something like that… Not exactly, but kinda, sorta, close.
So really nice guys don’t finish last, mature girls do.
So this nice girl (only when you call me Ms. Cajus) reached out to a couple of handsome and honest 20-something year old guy pals to draw a line between what girls and women commonly misconstrue and recognize all too late: What’s the difference between a Nice-Guy and a Pushover? Because truth be told, if nice guys still finish last it’s only because men need to be more vocal about the difference. *bats eyelashes*
“Well a nice guy is strong, confident, and knows what they are about. They have established what they want in life and they move toward that thing…or things … A push over is not sure of who they are so they are easily swayed or controlled by other people (women) and yet somehow nice guys can be mistaken for push overs. The difference is that there is a line for nice guys, for push overs you can almost get them to do anything…” – Ainsley, 29
“Good guys win as long as they’re confident. Pushovers aren’t. Confidence without being an a**hole, goes a long way. Sometimes, good guys win, sometimes they win a lot.” — Denver, 27
“Idk if there’s a difference!!! They’re both weak-minded dudes, but I will say a “Good Guy” does have a breaking point — there’s just so much he will take until he becomes an “A**HOLE” cause he’s been hurt so much. HELL YESS I been shitted on being a nice guy. And I was a legitimate good guy, I wasn’t a lame! Now, I’m a no non-sense guy! I dont take shit from women! Some would call me a jerk or an a**hole but I would just say a good guy with a splash, don’t f*ck with me!” – Reggie, 27,
“A pushover doesn’t know when a woman’s a Bitch. He’s desperate and understanding — possibly too understanding. A nice guy is a gentleman but still holds his ground.” – Daemean, 28
” You’re a push-over when your girl has no doubt that you will never leave her. Women find stability boring and admire the guy who keeps it suspensful. Women want power but once they get they’re bored with it. A Nice Guy knows that, so gives it out sparingly.” – Dunns, 26
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