Dirty Pic Etiquette: Is It Too Soon To Press Send?

Posted by By Tracy at 20 April, at 12 : 41 PM Print

The process of sending a 12 a.m. (p.m.?!) dirty pic can be damn meticulous. I’m sure this frisky set up sounds familiar…

Act 1: Calculate the inches of skin thy wishes to flaunt.

Act 2: Commit to a pose that doesn’t quite look like a pose. You know, the I just happen to be topless and dewy and faceless with perfect shadows around my obliques and this perfect mobile device eye-f-cking my thighs. That look.

Act 3: Tilt that iPhone in zigzagetty ways Steve Jobs would marvel at.

Then comes the first snap. Nope, that bad boy won’t be instantaneously shot over to dude. It’s evaluation time. Study the boob positioning, wonder if that coffee mug in the corner will limp his libido, plan improvements, prep for take two. Time for take two. Snap! There ya go…

I‘m sure your private displays of naked narcissism are truly something special, but what’s good with that timing pimp? One should consider exercising foreplay before recreating Amber Rose’s greatest hits. Why, because you’re about to be judged dear friend. And whether you’re categorized as the weekend pick-me-up, friendly exhibitionist, good girl gone bad, etc. etc. depends on two things: clock and connection.

To tighten my case, I hit some dudes with this query:

Is there such a thing as it being too early to send NSFW pics? Do you judge her a bit by this? And is there an etiquette a chick should follow, like start off teasingly then work your way up to spread em wide shots?

Now on to the answers…

“Definitely to start off with a low-investment photo, like a chill headshot. If you’re sending a nude pic as your first one, you seem easy, even if you’re not actually easy. Although I’m sure there’s a time and place to send a nude shot as a first pic, that time and place is very rare. 90% of men will respect women as much as women demand them to… if the women know the proper way to demand it. And a big part of “properly” demanding respect from men is rewarding them when they do the right thing. Giving too big of an award kind of messes up your reward system, and the guy will get spoiled. So that 90% of men will definitely judge if a nsfw pic is sent too soon, or even if it’s unprompted.”—Dillon, 22

“Girls can especially send nude/NSFW pics too soon because guys keep these photos on their phones and computers which can be accessed by others. It becomes a trust factor, you are exposing yourself to a vulnerability that you can control. Many guys keep these photos as trophies (the new little blackbook) and share it with others too. If you have been dating for 6 months or less try sending photos that are just a tease or at least make sure no one can identify you in them. For every Amber Rose and Kim K there are 100′s of girls exploited and taken advantaged of and blackmailed into doing things they wouldnt want to do. Sending nude photos is a license to being a victim of exploitation.” —Kumar, 25

“Lol, thats a funny question because I actually met some chick at Grits ‘n Biscuits last weekend who sent me pics of her tattoos (in NSFW places) already this week! Would I consider that too early? Yes, it’s too early if the girl is actually interested in seeing you in a serious way. If she’s not interested in that type of situation, I don’t think there is a thing as being too early to send NSFW pics because she’s basically just tryin to hook up from the viewpoint of the guy recipient.” —Chauncee, 27

“Personally, I’ma time and place kind of man. If it’s in the flow of conversation and we have that rapport, and you send me one: cool. If you arent desirable to me and you are sending me naked pics, I will be repulsed and offended, lol. If I judge you to be a jumpoff and you send me NSFW pics, it wont make you look worse. If you are a “good girl” and you send me those tit pics, then I will say “Oh she has a bad side.” Timing depends on how you want to be viewed by the dude. If you are just a freak like that and you don’t care what a dude thinks about you (even if that’s a swindle) then by all means let the pics fly! Just know if a dude texts you “What’s up” and you send your coochie with a smiley face as a reply, he won’t think highly of you!” —Jeff J, 31

“Anything less than 2 weeks is a little fast with the NSFW pictures. Of course whenever a NSFW picture is sent to you you think differently about the person. I think to myself that the person is umm, adventurous and make a mental note to fasten my seat belt! (fixes Halo). There is some etiquette to this art. At least start off slow with some dirty talk/texts to open up. a little flash here and there before the Amber shots lol. Its like watering the plant of lust, convo by convo before it sprouts into its full stage of debauchery…” —Skye, 27

And there you have it! I think the stickiest advice comes from Dillon and his point about keeping a handy dandy reward system. You can be the swaggiest athlete alive, but if you’re not putting in work during trainings, why the hell should you rock a gold medal?  Yeah, you probably won’t be the first or last JPG in his camera roll, but men understand our power mi gals and trust me, they will honor it, but only if you recognize that #fact yourself. It’s mighty possible that uncuffin’ season may have you feeling more snap-happy than usual, but take heed exhibitionists, take fatherf-cking heed.

Oh and one more thing, get your bedroom eyes out the shot! Sheesh.

Much x and o my little troublemakers,

Tracy (@trayhova)

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