The end of a relationship marks the advancement of standards. The sore loser’s attempt at better sportsmanship: she pulls out “The Sh*t I Won’t Be Taking Anymore” list, B.K.A. her deal breaker scroll and gets to the check listing. She kick starts with the most recent annoyances in pen, and proceeds from there.
I’m usually about this process except there’s a teensy weensy problem that tends to occur— going H.A.M with things that are important to you but impractical in the material world, i.e. baby hands, anti-Nas fans, excessive sandal wearing, etc. Silly, or rather unnecessary itemized expectations that when added up equal a figment of the author’s imagination, which of course throws a monkey-wrench in the whole mating process. Not only because this marginalizes a lot of men, but in fact royally pisses them off! Five in particular had to testify. Peep and reconsider:
DEAL BREAKER #1: If He’s Not A Big Date Spender…
I can really, really understand a woman’s need for financial security in her man. As we all know, in relationships women are long-term planners and by date #4 she’s maybe glimpsed into the future 4 years + 4 kids down the line. However, the fact that he shells out Franklins on fancy dining proves little. He could easily be a stunnarific lavish of a spender and financially irresponsible in the long run…#LightBulb.
What He Says: “Women expect too much from dates sometimes. As long as we’re sitting down getting to know each other, who cares where we eat or how much it costs. You hungry right? Eat!” —Alex, 25
DEAL BREAKER #2: If He’s Shorter Than Me…
Now I have to testify. Some of my best loving came from 5’10 and below. Don’t sleep on young Floyd he could knock you off your feet.
What He Says: “This is a really foolish expectation for women to have. If you look at the behavior on a purely practical level, women who date only tall men are blocking out a huge section of the population. I make it a point to date women who are taller than I am just to open their minds to the dark side (a.k.a. the shorter side). —Ainsley, 28
DEAL BREAKER #3: If He Doesn’t Have Swag…
A lot of us are super quick, probably too quick to knock a potential suitor off of the list because he can’t keep up with our jhedi mind tricks or double edged slick talk. Mr. “Uncool” tripping over his words gets chided for Mr. Sweet Nothings. Yes, I agree the man that can work the room looks like he can work other areas, but beware, social butterflies flutter.
What He Says: “Swag is so stupid and overrated. Just because he acts cool in a crowd doesn’t mean much he’ll be faithful, committed or even patient guy. His swag can’t do anything for you if that’s his best and only quality. Sometimes he’s just that comfortable with women because he’s had/has so many, including you.” —Keith, 32
DEAL BREAKER #4: If He Doesn’t Have A Powerful Job…
Beyond the dollar and a dream theory, even if he’s committed to his mediocre hum-drum 9-5, there’s no telling how he manages his money or the span of his investments, financially or characteristically.
What He Says: “Women need to stop worrying about where a man works at, and worry more about who a man is as a person. If you find a man that treats you well and you care about him, then you will help him advance in his careeer or find a new one. Money is not everything.” —Seven, 26
DEAL BREAKER #5: If He’s Not Packing Meat…
So, um, evidently, this item is overrated. No comment.
What He Says: “Size does matter and sex is important. But she can’t just look at it and run away. She has to test it out first, ya know, to be sure!” —Joe, 28
Overall, no one’s deal breaker list should be iron clad. Naturally we attract more people when we dwell on the things we do like and not on the things we don’t. Plus the one you fall in love with will ultimately be the exception to the rules anyways. Trust me.
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