Dream Guy Gone Bad: The Ugly Day My Idris Elba Turned Mr. Bourgie
Posted by By Chazeen at 9 May, at 13 : 38 PM Print
I’m not usually attracted to pretty boys but this time I decided to give it a try. We met at a charity event. I must say he was a pretty handsome man. Tall dark and handsome to be exact. In his 20′s. His attire… Fly. He was wearing a suit and it fit him oh so well. Tailored to a tee. His smile… Niceee. *Fabolous voice* It was kind of like an Idris type of smile. Yeaaa…now you get it! Very debonair, “Well, hello there” type of smile. If this were a scene in a movie you would see a sparkle flicker on the screen every time he showed those pearly whites.
I was smitten, at least for that moment. If you’ve read my blog, 5 Guys You Should Def. Date Before Settling Down, you know that I am a very avid believer that women should try to date different types of men before they take the big step (marriage). I’m far from that stage but in the end I want no regrets. I want to say that I enjoyed my single life and never feel tempted to try something new. It’s like an internship, you try working in different industries until you find the one that best fits you. I’ve also always wanted to date Idris Elba but hey if you can’t date em… find your own! Which is exactly what I did.
So I approached him, started up some convo “Hi, I’m Chazeen,” flashed a smile, entertained some back and forth and before I could pull out my hook line sinker…BAM! Too late, Mr. Perfect asked me for my number. Now that’s what I like to see. I don’t mind being the initiator but when he brings it home with the finale…I am in dating heaven.
Flash forward: We went on a few dates. I guess you could say that he was “The Socialite” guy that I mentioned in the blog above. Definitely a different type of experience: Museums, galas, eclectic restaurants, city parties with the who’s who crowd. His friends were all entrepreneurs doing very well for themselves. If I had to assign a theme to the series of dates that took place that month, I would label them as cultured and refined. I’d always noticed that he liked the finer things of life but it wasn’t until he mentioned his selective interest in purchasing only the finest of Italian socks (like purchasing them from Italy…using Euros) that it finally hit me… THIS GUY IS BOURGIE!
Wow! Never had I ever experienced dating a man like this. Don’t get it twisted, he wasn’t self-consumed and he actually showed a genuine interest in my life and current ventures but his love for these Italian socks, only wearing suits and dress shoes (To Every. Single. Last. Freakin event!), his impressive Lexus car and detailed discussions about expensive clothing was just something that I couldn’t do. It wasn’t me. If I dared to pull an authentic Chazeen move, like coming back from a buffet table with a stacked plate, he’d frown and ask me to “Please don’t do that.” haha. I laughed about it then and can still laugh today.) When I mentioned wearing sneakers he said, and I quote “Sneakers? I hate them. You’d never catch me dead in a pair.”
I think the final straw was when he joined me for a friend’s birthday dinner. I didn’t know any of the girls except the b-day girl so you know how that goes… they either like you or ignore you. Surprisingly, this dude was a hit! I guess they saw the Idris that I first saw. Everyone was loving him, chatting, and chuckling it up. This guy was pretty impressive, until we found out that one of the girls had taken four bar exams and was still jobless. “You mean to tell me that chick took four bars and she still doesn’t have a job?? Come on now, I could never date a chick like that…” By the way, in case I forgot to mention, she was sitting across the table from us…
Let that marinate for a sec…
No longer were we the liked couple at the table. At that point I realized that when it comes to dating, you def. can’t judge a book by its cover. I had to ask myself, “Is this what comes with dating an Idris Elba?” I guess everything isn’t always the way it seems in the movies. Just like the girl in the movies, I had finally found my Idris but he was bourgie and so… it could never work.
Until next time!
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That. Was. Hilarious! LOL
pinkpantiesandleopardlipstick, 1 year ago
At first, while you were first introducing this man, I was like this is a description of my dream man but when you got to the end when you said that he was talking about the girl who was right across the table, I was like "oh no". I wouldn't be able to date a guy that talks about others. If he told you about how he felt about that girl behind closed doors, that would have been appropriate but right in front of her, is just rude.
Rita, 1 year ago
"Sneakers?! I hate them. You'd never catch me dead in a pair"…haha! This guy sounds so funny. I would never date a bourgie guy! I am not about that life! I love wearing sneakers! We would clash!
Julie, 1 year ago