There comes a time in every female’s life when she meets a cute guy, chats it up with him, has GREAT convo… they go on a date, which she thinks went well and then… he never calls. WHAT THE HECK! Right?
We’ve all experienced it before: You think everything’s going bueno but joke’s on you little lady because the other party to this date doesn’t seem to agree. So why didn’t he call? You’ll probably never know unless you ask him of course…Try it sometime! I’ve definitely done it before (years after the fact), for research pruposes. Haha. Never hurts to better yourself!
What have my responses been? Usually, lack of chemistry, maybe we had different intentions for the relationship or I did something to offend him or rubb him the wrong way. A few years ago I was dating a Rico Suave who was the perfect gentleman and then one day it all started going downhill. I found out later that it began when I suggested that he not sleep over my house because a recent ex just happened to be there at my party as well and I didn’t want to embarrass him in front of his friends… I had just broken up with him. Didn’t still have feelings for him but given the circumstances, I didn’t want to embarrass him. Silly move or maybe a “duh” moment, I know, but hey! Ya live and ya learn.
So with this new found information, I thought it’d be fun to hit up some of my guy friends and hear their stories and reasons for not calling a girl back. It’s time to read and grow ladies. Read on…
Lesson 1: Yea, He Probably Won’t Call If You Tell a Crazy Story on the 1st Date
WHAT HE SAYS: “How about I went on a date with this girl that was hot but after speaking to her, I found out that she was crazy. She actually told me that she threw a brick through her ex’s windshield and keyed the car. After that, I had to fade out but not before I got the chance to pound cake.” – Jay, 28
Lesson 2: If He Thinks You’re Lying Just to Get On His Good Side, That’s No Bueno
WHAT HE SAYS: “I met this girl one time and she was cool. Her whole thing was about being casual and not getting too deep. She did everything she could to keep things casual and I bought it until she started calling me three times a day and pressing me about my availability. I told her “That isn’t casual,” and she lost it. When I stopped calling or returning her calls as frequently, she started sending me crazy messages and I cut it off.” – Denver, 29
Lesson 3: Met Him at a Party? Make Sure He Sees Ya in Some Good Lighting
WHAT HE SAYS: “I met a girl at a party, asked her out on a date, she ended up looking nothing like I remembered…that light messes you up. Not to mention she had 3 kids! Never talked to her again” – Stan, 24
Lesson 4: No Thirstiness Please
WHAT HE SAYS: “I was out at a party and this girl kept looking over at me. She was obviously into me. I thought she was kind of cute. I was into her from the start. She came up to me to dance. She was hella aggressive though. Like other people started watching us because she was wildin out…but in her mind, she seemed to be thinking that she was the sh*t and working me… haha… So as her friends were leaving, she asked for my number but I was a little was turned off when she called the number right in front of me to make sure it was real. Only guys do that! Really!?… lol. Right after, she sends me a picture…that same night.. I guess it was so that I could remember her and the next day she texted me “what’s up.” I never replied.” –Justin, 27
Lesson 5: Um… Just read smh
WHAT HE SAYS: “Living here in Brazil I went out on a date with this girl I met at a Samba Party. She was very gorgeous, smart, a samba dancer from a very famous school of samba here in Rio. We went out to have some wine and chit chat. When we were deep in convo the topic of religion came up. I told her I was Christian etc etc.. And When I asked her about her faith. She told me she practiced an old Afro-Brazilian religion that had a reputation for using children as sacrifices for worldly gains. Needless to say that was the last date and contact I had with the girl.” - Parrish, 26
Lesson 6: If The Convo Isn’t There, Just Keep on Trucking
WHAT HE SAYS: “Met a bartender. Great conversation. Gorgeous woman, but I just wasn’t feeling the vibe we had via text. Nor was I interested in putting in the effort because after a while I just want low hanging fruit (easy, not a lot of hard work).” – Lance, 27
Lesson 7: Don’t Assume. Wait For His Invitation
WHAT HE SAYS: “I went out on a date and we end up at a nice neighborhood spot for late afternoon eats. She proceeded to order literally the most expensive items on the menu. She then rapidly consumed said food with nearly a convo in between. I pay this bill with no question, because I’m a gentleman, but all the time I’m thinking… “This is some BS.” After that, she insisted that we go back to my place. We get there and she proceeds to watch two hours of reality television as I try to think of every way humanly possible to get her out of my home because she wasn’t taking my subtle cues. She leaves and needless to say, she never gets a call again.” – Rafael, 24
Lesson 8: You Gotta Look The Same Way You Looked When He Met You!
WHAT HE SAYS: “Ok, I met this girl at a party a while back, and we seemed to get along well enough so I asked for her number. We arranged a date and upon arrival the disappointment began. If you’re going to do hair and make-up (whether natural or “enhanced”) you have to commit to the cause and maintain it, at least for a first date! Her perm-weave hybrid was crooked, her nail polish was chipped (badly), and she didn’t seem the least bit interested in spending any money besides my own (at least offer, it’s courteous!). Visuals aside, we didn’t quite click, so I had to close that case.” - Devon, 29
Um… Any of these ever been you? Lol. Well no hateration here, I’m simply happy for the knowledge. Main lesson: If he takes too long to call after the 1st date or if his actions/responses/mannerisms start switching up or falling off, he’s just as into you… as he was before. Take a hint sister and move on to the next one ; )
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