That awkward moment when your BF and your BFF both think you can do better. Sucks to be monkey in the middle right? You’re girl has a laundry list of reasons why you need to let that ninja go and your man swears life would be a beach chair if chickens would just mind their own coop. Not here to validate either side, because as we’ve all learned from the rachetivity that is the Love And Hip-Hop Atlanta Stevie J love triangle –lovers be lying and some relationships need the intervention (word to Joseline’s baby bumpito).
But for all intents and purposes we will focus on the friend feedback aspect of it all via our girlfriends. The “Why are you still with him girl?” inquirers and the independent woman insisters, the “Arians” of the world. Yeah, we need to chat it up with her right quick. Evidently, are our guys have strong opinions on how/why our GFs can mess up our relationships. Cheat sheet:
1.) By Competing For His Attention
“Girls get really territorial over their friends and when they start losing their best friends undivided attention I think they get jealous on the low, low, low and try to compete with them. Either that or they’re attention starved and her and her girlfriend are so close she’s looking at her girl’s man like he’s another thing they can share, like a sweater or a purse.” –Daniel, 22
2.) By Inquiring and Knowing Way Too Much About The Relationship
“Girls be letting their girls have way too much access to their personal business. And I get it, women are emotional and their dating a guy like me the last thing he’s entertaining is her venting– so they complain to their girlfriends. But now you got somebody walking around knowing the complaints you have about not only your personal life, but his. When sh-t hits the fan and she starts spewing the whole relationship’s in jeopardy. Bad biz…” –Xavier, 26
3.) By Having A Bad Reputation…
“Bird’s a feather Ma… So now dudes are looking at the girlfriend like she’s a hoe too. And yes they are going to try to test that and you tell them you have a boyfriend and they still think they can get it, depending what kind of guy it is hollering that just intensifies the chase! Which obviously is bringing problems in your relationship because depending on how big of a hoe her BFF is, people are going to constantly undermine her wifey credibility.” –Emmanuel, 29
4.) By Being Jaded, A Man-Hater, or the OD Miss Independent
“These chicks be mad at the world. Really men at men because they feel rejected by them so are constantly trying to brainwash their friend who IS genuinely happy and in a relationship to find and focus on the flaws. It’s wack.” –Kevin, 26
5.) By Being Your Body-Guard
“This chick just really loves her friend and is trying to look out but is doing it all wrong. Most of the time they do this because they don’t think that their girl has what it takes to protect herself, but that’s some serious deal breaker move right there. Because if the girlfriend does stay with boyfriend, that’s causing problems with the friendship and vice versa.” –Victor, 25
Now disclaimer: Some guys don’t want girlfriend’s girl friends all in the mix because that means less slack for them. Just so we’re all on the same page: Not all girlfriends with some critical 2 cents about our relationships are jealous, attention, starved haters. Some are just keeping it real and are highlighting the flaws and faults love has conveniently allowed us to shrug off. And yes there are the other types of BFFs –the ones that are threatened by your romantic relationship, not because they don’t want to see you happy, but maybe they’re just not ready to loosen the grips on your best friendship. As always you just have to know the company you keep and above all choose wisely.
Ever been in a similar position? Guys what are some other ways homegirls mess up relationships for their friends? Can you tell the difference between a “hater” and a friend that wants to see you do better? Speak on it @wwmdtv
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