What’s up with guys who “Don’t do social media” ?
It’s like this random fad that seems to be getting just a little more popular than it needed to be. I’m almost certain that I’ve met at least 4 guys this summer with the same claim and every time it’s said, I sadly become turned off. Not completely off but enough to bring him down a few points from his original rating. Sound a bit extreme? Well let me fill you in on where I’m coming from.
#1 What Are You Hiding?
“Yo. Facebook gets you into trouble. I can’t mess with it” – John, 24
Like my guy friend said below, I have to wonder: “Are you hiding anything? Did you have a crazy dramatical experience with a past girl friend or fling? Is she stalking you? Did she catch you cheating? OR even worse did she catch you stalking her? Do you have a few groupies/ flings that may mess up your game on Facebook? So many questions and so little time but when men usually say that Facebook and Twitter get you into trouble, this is the first thing that comes to mind. Might be best to stop saying that now guys. Not the best look ; )
#2 Are You Reaching For The Stars?
“I don’t do Facebook, Twitter, G chat, Aim, Tumblr. None of that. I’m just not into it.” – Darren, 28
I once had a guy tell me this but it’s 2012! I have to ask “What rock do you live under?” Are you not tech savvy? and If not, why? We depend on computers for everything that we do nowadays. How do you keep in contact with people? Whether it’s for social or business purposes, how do you stay up on what everyone’s doing? Events? The latest news? Have you taken advantage of this opportunity to expand your circle and network through your networks’ networks? Are you one of those guys who are just content with the job that you have? Do we share the same belief of reaching for the stars? One of my biggest fears is ultimately ending up with a man who lacks motivation. I’d like us to be on the same page and be equal partners in everything and have the same hunger and drive for success. It’s all about who you know and what you know so, once again, I have to ask: Why aren’t you tech savy? : (
#3 Just Wondering If You’re a Loner
“I don’t need social media, I can call my friends on the phone and build real relationships, not fake ones” – Eric, 26
I’m not saying that if he’s not a social media head then he’s definitely a loner but I’ve found that this is usually the case. It can be a good thing or a bad thing. If he’s not always out and about with his hundreds of facebook friends then he’ll possibly have more time to dedicate to you. If you’re a loner/ homebody as well then the two of you are meant to be but if you’re like me and often find yourself out and about chilling with friends, you’d probably like to know that your guy has his own life or doesn’t need to be with you 24/7. It would also be nice to have a way for him to keep in contact with your own personal buds when he meets them. You know that little Facebook bond that you end up having with your BF or GF’s friends? You like their posts. They like yours and it brings the relationship a little bit closer. Close enough for him to eventually hold his own at next year’s Christmas party or afterwork event. No one likes a clinger. Well at least I don’t.
I am only one gal however, so let’s see what some other ladies had to say:
“Depends on the man. Usually it means they aren’t tech savy enough, or they dont want the temptation. My cousin, the biggest dog of them, he cannot do social media or his marriage would end a week after” - Elise, 27
“It wouldn’t be a deal breaker for me if he didn’t use social media. Of course I would ask him why he doesn’t use it and if he told me that he’s more comfortable with keeping up with his friends via phone/email rather than checking their Facebook statuses I would be fine with that.“ - Annie, 24
“Well we are in an age where everyone is on social media, so if a friend of mind met a guy who wasnt on Facebook or any other type of social media I would think he had something to hide. “ – Karima, 27
Well there you have it. I agree with Annie. I would not completely cut a guy off if he was not in tune with this social media age but I would need a really good explanation just to make sure that this wasn’t one of the situations described above. Well.Let me know what you think ladies and gents. Could you date a guy or girl who didn’t do Facebook, Twitter, Gchat or even AIM? Until next week friends!