Ok. So I wrote a recent blog titled “WWMD vs. Single Black Male: Are Groupon Paid Dates A Sure Deal breaker?“ and the men weren’t too happy about that one. Their argument: “Why does it matter how he pays, at least he’s taking you out!”
To each its own, but as I’ve mentioned before, everyone is entitled to their preference when they’re dating. You are the only one that has to deal with the circumstances that you have created and if you aren’t cool/comfortable with a guy using coupons on your 1st date then set the standard and stick to it. He may not like your standards but he’ll respect them and not waste your time.
Disclaimer: I was mostly referring to restaurant Groupons
Anywho. What the guys failed to acknowledge was the fact that I provided other wallet friendly dating options. I’m not so concerned with how much he spends on me but more so the efforts that were put into this date. How important is it to him that he leaves a good impression on this date? Am I just another date or one that he is truly excited to be out with?
Rather than debate it out with my good ol’ friends, especially because I’ll probably be seeing a few of them this weekend, I thought I’d provide some more clarifation and suggestions for how to creatively woo a lady on the 1st date. This one’s for you amigos!
#1 I mean you just have to tailor it around events. You have to know what kinds of things the woman likes to do and then tailor your plans that. You can do anything from movies in the park to a reading or poetry event or a show. - Jozen, Until I Get Married
#2 “Take her to an arcade or Dave and Busters. Hit the race track with bumper cars. Go to the Sea Port and take a yellow taxi. It’s corny but the yellow taxi takes you to the statue of liberty. It’s chill.” – Kia, 24
#3 “If he said hey! You know there’s this exhibit that I really want to check out, wanna come with? Then I’d say yes. I wouldn’t even think of it as being free. After, we could go to a hole-in-a-wall spot for a little food which is usually the BEST food anyway. It also ends up being super cheap. It’s all about the thought.” - Alissa, 25
#4 “Thursday at Brooklyn Bridge Park there are outdoor movies. He can pack a picnic basket, wine, blanket and enjoy!” – Phia, 28
#5 First dates can be tough because you don’t wan’t to do too much in case you don’t have chemistry with the person but you also need to make sure you do something that allows you to see his personality. The other day they had this big event over at Governors Island. It was a jazz event with music, food vendors, art, etc. I think that would be a really cool first date and tickets were only $25 per person. Doing your research and finding a really cool exhibit at a museum is a very nice idea and then grabbing a lunch afterwards is always a nice touch. I love a date where I walk away with a cool experience. Doing anything that involves culture is always fun if you are into that sort of thing. - Shannon, 27
And there you have it! I wouldn’t list these bad boys unless I knew that I, myself, would be down for the ride. Ladies and gents! Any more suggestions to provide? Share away. Help the guys out. They help us everyday on What Would a Man Do? ; )
PS. Here is a link to the BK Park movie night that Phia mentioned above. A date took me here (minus the blanket, wine tec. which I was fine with). I loved it! And it was FREE!:
You can thank me now!
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