I’ve always said that I would never date an athlete.Well… not seriously at least. Momma didn’t raise no fool. If a handsome NFL player stopped me on the street today and asked me on a date, ya best believe that I would accept his offer (for bragging rights) and be sure to show up in the sexiest outfit that I own. Of course I’d then post it on Facebook to share with all you guys! By the way, make sure you like us on Facebook for even more guy advice and edutainment. Like Now! (shameless plug. Hehe).
Anywho, in recent talks with a fellow banker friend, he compared their dating encounters to that of an athlete: “It’s kind of the same. Girls know we have money and so they flock to us. It’s hard to tell who’s really serious about you and who’s just gold digging.” Interesting. I had never thought about the two professions and how they compare. I’ve dated a banker before and although I’ve noticed some of their semi playerish ways, I’ve never thought to swear them off. I’ve never proclaimed my disinterest in seriously dating them as I have for any athlete.
A banker and an athlete sharing the same dating woes or joys? Makes sense to me. He’s cute, young and has money. Sounds like a recipe for groupie soup and I recall a lot of my banker friends having A LOT of female options. How does it compare you ask? No worries. Madam Chazeen to the rescuse. Thankfully one of my friends leant his anonymous voice to help put things into perspective (You know bankers. They gotta watch everything that they do). Shall we start?
WWMD:Would you say that your life is comparable to that of an athlete as far as the way ladies treat you?
Anonymous Banker: I would definitely say so. I’ve noticed that when I’m on the train. If you’re well suited up in a $3,000 suit, they’ll notice. They don’t even have to know what you do. If they think you make money then they’ll be attracted to you. When we’re at a club, we have the money to do VIP, get a table and skip the line. Women notice that. We don’t spend like crazy but we’ll spend more money than the average guy.
OK. Any other indications?
I’ve noticed that women will note the type of watch that you’re wearing. My jeweler told me that lately women have been coming to check out watches in his store. They’ll check them out and inquire about the type of man who would purchase each type of watch. It’s a good strategy because if you’re a watch nerd like me then it makes for a good conversational piece. I’m just glad to have someone to talk to about it. haha.
As a banker what do you look for in a woman?
I’m looking for classy but sexy. And I need style. I don’t need you wearing 6 inch heels everywhere but if we attend a corporate event, I want you to blend in with the crowd.
Got it. So what if she does not own any of that?
It’s hard because I don’t like gold diggers but then I would want to see my girl in Prada and Gucci and so I guess I’d have to provide it for her. You don’t want to take your girl to an event and then she shows up in a target dress. It’s about fitting in to the circle.
So before the relationship, do you see anything wrong with purchasing stuff for her?
In the beginning you’ll get little things like flowers, mini trips, thoughtful things that enhance the experience not so much materialistic things but once she’s actually my girlfriend, she can have whatever she wants. In the early stages, I’m a little more suspicious of what her intentions are.
I’ve dated bankers before and they’ve never bought me anything major, dang. Ok so what’s the major signs that she’s a gold digger?
Well like I said, I may take you places and buy you the little things but if I find that this is an issue for the girl then she’s automatically gone. If she’s always expecting me to pay for this, and pay for that, it becomes a turn off. I don’t want to feel like the girl always has to be taken care of. It’s nice to see a girl, every once in a while, handle the bill. It would be cool to go to the bathroom, come back and hear her say “ No worries, it’s already been taken care of because you’ve done so much already.”
What if she doesn’t have any money to take you out? Is that ever a suitable excuse ?
She should be able to afford a dinner. She can pick the location. Pick a cheaper spot. A better gesture could be just a dinner at home. You get points like that. Just make sure that you can cook and then desert is right in the other room. haha. I’m not expecting this in the beginning. More like when things get more serious. A few dates in.
Do you find yourself dating more women that make around the same amount as you so that you don’t have to worry about the gold digging aspect?
I look at my friends who are in serious relationships. Their women do make around the same amount as them. Ideally, you want to be a successful couple, not off balance. Who you date is also a product of who you hang out with and associate with.
So what about when you find yourself dating girls who don’t make that much. Do you take them seriously?
In my younger 20′s, I only cared about whether or not she was hot and that’s all that mattered. Now a days, I want to know that she’s smart, sophisticated and that I can bring her around my friends, family, boss and co-workers. If i’m attracted to her then she’s already got the main qualities that I need in a girl.
Random question. On average, how much does a banker in his mid 20′s make?
$75 – 95,000. It could be more in some cases.
In our past blog, our interviewee/ professional Gold Digger taught us how to nab a guy with money. Can you spot a gold digger right away? If so, how?
Too many discussions about money and expensive things. She might always throw out prices and do stuff like that. Unless she’s been doing this for a while, it’s easy to tell. If you as a banker find yourself talking a lot about your profession, how much you make etc, something’s definitely wrong. That’s why it’s nice to see a woman do things that a man would do sometimes, like pick up a check. If a guy feels like he’s putting out 90 % of the effort, it may make him feel like you’re just chasing his money.
So when a girl only wants you for your money, do you use that to your advantage?
Oh yeahhh. I mean obviously you know what they want and if you flash a little, you’ll get what you want.
Final Thoughts: What are some of the struggles of being a young banker?
You don’t get to spend as much time with the person you like. You make a lot of money but you don’t get to enjoy it.
Is this why a lot of younger guys arne’t trying to get serious when dating?
Yea. We don’t have the time to commit to a female unless she’s the real deal. Young bankers throw away money and party a lot. Once they start thinking about the future, the partying starts to die down, they get over living the “baller” life. They start valuing money and being smart about how they spend or save.
Alright… Well thank you much sir!
Talk about creating a new outlook! I’m not sure if I should start dating more bankers or stay away from them until I’m 30. J/k. It makes sense though. When a banker is young and in his 20′s he’s new money. He has less obligations and knows that women will flock to him so why not take advantage of that? I’d do it too. I think the key thing to remember is that if you’re looking to nab a banker, on a serious tip, you’ve got to show him that you’re not all about his money. Sounds like the same approach that you’d have to use for an athlete. If you’re looking to be in a serious relationship, I suggest looking towards the older bankers that have outgrown the young wet feet stage.
This has definitely been an interesting day in WWMD world. What do you think about Bankers vs. Athletes? Do you agree? Did I miss something? Got more advice to share. Comment below luvs!
Until next time!
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